Detached, but not Broken-a diary of a LRT

[Broken74]

Thanks Grmpy... Still having positive conversations with W, primarily by text and email but everything seems to have some positive momentum. This is probably a mind reading statement but she is looking into getting her diamonds put into a new setting to wear on her right hand. This is no surprise because we had discussed previously should we reconcile in the future we would be totally starting over. I made a slightly pursuing statement to the effect of don't get to unique with her selection because you never know when you may get something on your left hand that needs to match. She didn't bite but it didn't rub her the wrong way either. Other than that our communications have just been chatty, goofy, and funny really, kind of like the old days when we first started dating. When I have strayed into "us" territory she hasn't exactly bit on it but she hasn't been taken aback by it either.

So all in all, although I'm not DB'ng by the book I'm feeling better where we are because we're in the best place we've been in the past 6 months, and things seem to get a little better each day. I realize going dark should be my strategy but I think that would be more hurtful than helpful at this point. I also think if she were conversing w/OM then we wouldn't be talking in this way. Possible mind reading but I know her and am certain that is the case. Again mind reading but I have to think the OM must have shown his true colors in a way, or something happened to break things loose in the last couple of weeks for sure.

So all in all a good week for me. My short term goal is to let her initiate all communications going forward, and I will respond in kind, and to avoid any persuing behavior. It is really nice for us to be talking again without angst between us, it has been a long six months to get this point.

I know I deserve some 2x4 treatment as I'm doing my own rogue style, but it honestly has got us to the best spot since all of this nonsense started. That said I'm not going to do anything radical to break that momentum. Thanks to you all for your continued support and good luck in your respective sitch's!