i agree there is no chance of r until h gets rid of ow. and yes, it is obviuos the ow is current choice. i am hoping/praying once h comes out of this fog and "me/selfish stage" he can see collateral damage caused and realize he wants to work on m and reconciling with family. currently, 3 of 5 children have no relationship with h, and 1 is deployed in military and has not had much contact over the years. h feels pressure at work as they have lost respect among co-workers and bosses due to lying to them as well as actions of abandonment of family h is meal ticket to ow and ow also has history of drugs and cheating on last person multiple times - so with all this "going" for ow it is my hope this a dies down quickly. h's family does not speak with h (they live elsewhere) but when h does they politely remind h to review actions and what do they expect to be different this time versus last... not like h is listening, but as time goes by hopefully (for my sake) it will get better.
trying to gal for me is extremely hard, as everything was done as a family unit. now, it is just myself, d, and gc. there are 2 children in college - 1 away and 1 at home but with their own life not wanting to spend with mom of all people, as if! and the other child is biological child of h, not mine, therefore, chooses not to deal with me at all
