Originally Posted By: YankeeCandle
Hi there - thanks for this amazing forum.

I am hoping for some pointers now as I just received an email from my estranged husband who says he needs to find himself, that he has not been living in his integrity and that he needs to do it alone (therapist advice). We've been married for 17 years. We've been separated for 3 months now - on and off for the last 2 years - and I'm pretty fed up. He wants to be just friends now. I feel like throwing in the towel, want to stop talking to him, thinking of him and just get on with my own life. I read DB and it was truly wonderful. I really wonder if it will help though at this point. Any encouragement would be most welcome. Thanks!


Sorry you are on moderation, keep posting and you should be off soon. Here is one of the missing posts above.

I am confused as to what the story is as this post conflicts with the one above it.

Let him control the contact for right now IMHO.


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