Im assuming you meant my comment about me not having any reason to feel jealous about H and OW.
Well first of all this didn't happen overnight and I still have a twinge here and there, but it's getting better over time. But for me what's worked is being rational about this situation and what I do know about this OW and how I know stbx.
Quite frankly I get the idea he's stuck with someone that won't get a job and is using him as a meal ticket. She has no desire to connect with my kids (however my kids don't want to connect with her) she hasn't had a job in 3 years and isn't even looking for one. Apparently she's milking unemployment for all it's worth. According to my kids she rarely ever gets out of her Pj's and is on the computer all day long. She sleeps very late and naps during the day too. Yesterday stbx had kids and their cousin on a snow day. He took them out to breakfast while she slept in. Her family repuatation and drama....that's a whole other ball of wax. I won't even get into that.
Why be jealous of that? Just because my H chose her? My ego suffers a big bruise because the rejection alone is horrible. But whatever. If he's content supporting someone and working himself into a frazzle over a piece of A$$ and is infatuated. I have his financial support, but I am working full time, raising my kids on my own, and running my own house hold and my affairs. I do not need him to do this for me and I don't expect anyone to be my next meal ticket, nor do I wish to play games to get someone to do that for me.
I guess I could twist it around and make it look like he's pissing cirlces around her and keeping the kids out of the house so she can sleep. Or he could be so infatuated that he's willing to work his butt off to not only support him and her and me and my children with no problem because he's so happy. But whatever
I've outgrown him a long time ago. Its just the disappointment he didn't want to grow with me, and my ego being so brusied over being rejected.
I hope that helps, if not ask me more quesitions Im happy to answer.
