I dont think i ever posted anything about myself feeling ugly...
you tell me not to hang my values on it, but then you tell me to choose on who i am and what i believe...
how about instead of telling me what my obvious choices are you can just give words of advice.
like advice on whether i should just say yes ill sign the divorce papers so we leave with the least headache and least money spent. or do I stick to my vows, morals, and beliefs and refuse to sign anything.
I did not mean you did. You described the situation. When I said you're looking in the mirror I did not mean physical appearence but that you have atributed what you believe as "ugly" on your situation...
Which you have control over. Yes YOU do.
I could tell you what I would do in your situation but that would be the same as your wife dictating your fate by HER choice
Because it didn't come from you...
And who you decide to be in the face of this tragedy.
THAT is the question. I am sorry if I offended you I did not intend that and it is not my way.
H2H we were all raw when we came here.
I am here to help, not to offend. Sometimes the rhetoric is blunt.
Sometimes it needs to be. If you feel a sting?
Take a good hard look at it is my advice. I have no axe to grind.
Leo hit it on the head.
Read what I wrote again please.
My goal is to some day be the person my dog thinks I am
