Hi Dory. I have been scouring my old threads for a few things that might help you. I just came across some personal goals that I set for myself in the early days. Maybe they will be useful to you.
"My goals:
1. Become a better person; 2. Learn to control my ego; 3. Learn what love means to me; 4. Learn to love my W unconditionally; 5. To become a better H; 6. Learn to be more in control of my personal happiness; 7. Understand my share in the breakdown of my M; 8. To be resilient through the worst disaster of my life - the breakdown of M; 9 To be strong and confident through this; 10. To maintain hope no matter how dark things may become in the future."
Denver
M 43 X 38 T 13 W moves out of home 11/2010 Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012 I request divorce 5/2012 W moves home 6/2012 Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015 I leave 3/2016 process of divorce