And what struck me most this read was the statement that we need to do what makes us uncomfortable, and our spouses need to also be uncomfortable.
Those words were ringing in my head as I had my own dinner early, I hate going to yoga on a full stomach. H comes home while I am doing dishes. He looks around for dinner. I told him I had leftovers, there is more or soup, or some nice refridgerated pasta. He looks liked a kicked puppy. I don't know why it is so important to him that I cook his food!
I say I have a few minutes before I leave, do you want me to cook for you? He says yes, he is famished and had a very hard day. I must say, it is funny. Problem is right now, everything makes me uncomfortable. Cooking, not cooking, silly me!
Next he makes a big deal about the fact that "We" missed a few TV shows because the DVR reset itself. He really hates watching TV alone.
So if I am super busy for the next 8-12 weeks, maybe he will start to miss me. I have the quilt show coming up and it wouldn't be a lie if I really was that busy. (I might even win another prize or two in the quilt show. Good for my battered ego.)
The "Going Dark" 101 thread also made me realize that I don't have to go dark all at once. I can keep my hand on that dimmer switch. So I ate dinner without him, am in a different room right now, and when I get home from yoga will go to bed early to read. I will ease away and see how that goes.
I also plan to buy a bunch of frozen dinners for us, so "we" can start picking out our own dinners. Baby steps! And off to yoga for me!
Me 57 XH 58 Sons age 32 & 27 M:32 D final 9/12 Bought 10 Acres and Living the Dream!
