Pressed for time so I will think about and get to your Q's next time Gritter.
We were talking and I asked W where she was at. Realizing immediately that it was a backslide, I couldn't believe that just came out of my mouth. She said things change daily for her. She just doesn't know. She is affraid to show me any positive for fear that I might act like all is ok. She is affraid to move out for fear that I might move back. She said she just doesn't feel like she thinks she should feel toward me. She misses the good times but doen't know how to get back there or if we can.
I just STFU and listened and validated some things. Anyway, bad move but I handled it as best I could and she didn't flip out. Glad to come out the other side and move on down the DB road. I pretty much knew the answers by heart as I have read them so many times on here before. I'm not down about her answers. Quite the opposite.
Didn't tell her I have decided to stay here. Should I have? It could be considered controlling behavior to let her think I will move back.
I did tell her that I intend to move through this together as parents. So maybe that covered it. I felt like it did at the time, but typing through this made me wonder.
