Funny how we start imagining them barricading bedrooms, etc. I always imagined my H just disappearing and me with no way of earning any substantial money to support me and D19 (and we are both in uni). He hasn't done that yet, and it's been 7 years, so I guess he's not likely to in the near future.
Thing is, we should cross that bridge when we come to it. I am glad you are detached, and also determined not to move ... from the house or your bed. I agree, it's her choice. She just thinks you're controlling because she can't control you. All you are doing is standing your ground. "Steadfast" is the word I would give you.
Keep it up.
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim