CV, I read Accuray's question of "so quickly" to mean that moving back into the bed didn't have to also include sex "so quickly".
I have been one of the people who has tried to encourage to re-engage with your H... but I was thinking more in the lines of setting up a garden "test plot" for him to play in, while you taught him the ropes. Or go for a ride, a movie, a walk, dinner...
From what I could tell, you were far and away not ready for intimacy, yet...
Re-engaging with your H would be getting to know him again... "first date" if we were to use a metaphor. Connecting with him to some degree.
Many of the people I've "fallen in love with" I was never physically intimate with... I felt (became) connected to them...
