Well I haven't been speaking with any of our friends about the sitch or our family members. I realize that it's probably not helpful or beneficial for me to keep this all in. I also think that in moments of weakness I get to "kicking the old tires" around in my head. I have never visited a therapist and I assume most people won't volunteer the information if they are or at least my immediate group of friends/family have not. How do you select a therapist that would be helpful or pick one?