Together Since We Were 15...Now Piecing

[MrBond]

First off I'd get rid of your C. I can see she uses the Gordon Ramsay tough love style of C. But being told negatives without any positives just leave you with negatives. I would suggest someone who is proM and has followed DB principles.

Second, for the thing I suggested you write down, DO NOT write about your feelings. Same goes for your H. Write down your NEEDS and concrete steps that the other person can do to help see to those needs.

Especially in the case of your H, he really does need a guidebook. Because of his immaturity (I mean in terms of experience) you have to detail what he needs to do and be sure they are specific.

When he says stuff like he won't go out for two weeks and you don't think it's enough, tell him that you think it's a great start. And that you would like him to understand that the reason he isn't going out isn't to keep him home, but to spend that time bonding with you and your child.

Say things like... I feel secure when you...

Give him examples of things he's done in the past so he has a starting point.

Guys are a little thick headed when it comes to this emotional stuff. Don't "expect" him to understand something. After all, I'm sure he says some things that you've misinterpreted. No mindreading.