I dont want to sign the papers because i dont believe in divorce under any cercumstance.
OK sounds like this might be a core value to you?
You do realize that if she wants to divorce you she has a right to so hanging your own value on that outcome...
...might be self defeating?
YOU are NOT your W's choices.
It is not important what other people say about your sitch or whether its "ugly" it's only important that you see the reality of it and how you choose to react or handle it.
Originally Posted By: H2H
im trying to move on with my life. I still have feelings for her so its whats holding me back.
And the only question now is how you will choose to do that.
As a victim of your W's choices
Or
As a man who made his own, lived them no matter what his W was choosing or not choosing.
A man who decided to be "ugly"
Or
A man who looked in the mirror and decided to NOT be ugly?
It is not what your W chooses
It is what YOU do with what she chooses that will make all the difference here H2H.
It is not in her action...
BUT
in YOUR reaction that your salvation lies.
Originally Posted By: H2H
I still have feelings for her so its whats holding me back.
The prisons are full of people who acted on emotions/feelings.
Choose instead on who you are and what you believe.
DO you have any idea who that guy is? How about describing him?
I dont think i ever posted anything about myself feeling ugly...
you tell me not to hang my values on it, but then you tell me to choose on who i am and what i believe...
how about instead of telling me what my obvious choices are you can just give words of advice.
like advice on whether i should just say yes ill sign the divorce papers so we leave with the least headache and least money spent. or do I stick to my vows, morals, and beliefs and refuse to sign anything.
