OMG I cant believe she is gone

[Truegritter]

I dont want to sign the papers because i dont believe in divorce under any cercumstance.

OK sounds like this might be a core value to you?

You do realize that if she wants to divorce you she has a right to so hanging your own value on that outcome...

...might be self defeating?

YOU are NOT your W's choices.

It is not important what other people say about your sitch or whether its "ugly" it's only important that you see the reality of it and how you choose to react or handle it.

im trying to move on with my life. I still have feelings for her so its whats holding me back.

And the only question now is how you will choose to do that.

As a victim of your W's choices

Or

As a man who made his own, lived them no matter what his W was choosing or not choosing.

A man who decided to be "ugly"

Or

A man who looked in the mirror and decided to NOT be ugly?

It is not what your W chooses

It is what YOU do with what she chooses that will make all the difference here H2H.

It is not in her action...

BUT

in YOUR reaction that your salvation lies.

I still have feelings for her so its whats holding me back.

The prisons are full of people who acted on emotions/feelings.

Choose instead on who you are and what you believe.

DO you have any idea who that guy is? How about describing him?