Tad I know what u r going thru. Brookie has given you great advice. When my xh left, my son, 18 was devistated. He basically stayed shut up in his room and would not do hardly anything I asked of him. We were on our own. My xh stopped paying bills. I had to approach son and explain it was just me and him and he was gonna have to help out with a part time job. My son looked up to his dad so much. When son and I had a disagreement he would call his dad. Many here told me to send son packing to his dads. Tad, my son never respected me as much as his dad. I gave into son many times over the years. He was mammas baby and always will be. Also when his dad left, son BLAMED ME. He knew his dad had made the decision to leave the family and I "think" he knew he cheated but he STILL put the blame on me. Son was not respecting me and one day it all came to a head. I told son he was gonna have to go stay with his dad FOR AWHILE. My son did NOT want to go live with his dad. Anyway he called his dad and we struggled for the phone and you know what his dad told him over the phone. "Get away from her son, she is crazy". No support! I called a friend/cop to come by and talk to son. That day son went to his dads. He was very upset and it BROKE my heart into a million pieces. I knew if I didnt send him my son would NEVER amount to anything. WOrk or school. The next day son returned for his things and said mom its ok, I needed to go stay with dad. Hugged me and he was fine. BUT the longer he stayed the more I became the enemy. Its been over two years since my son as spoke to me and it tears me apart everyday. I love and miss him so much. I, like Brookie, promised myself though that no matter what, I would NOT talk bad about his dad. AND I havent and never would. Sometimes I think I made the biggest mistake of my life sending him away but I never intended for him not to never return. He was fine at first, I would take him things and he would say hurry and leave mom before dad gets upset. His dad doesnt speak to me and I know this affects son. Son has shut me out for now. BUT I have left it into God's hands and I know he will bring son home and fix our relationship. Tad just dont say anything to son if he comes home with an attitued UNLESS he gets very disrespectuful. They are being pulled in so many directions and its so hard on them. I hope you NEVER go thru what I have with my son.
Brookie do you think my ex has brainwashed my son? Do you think son is afraid of his dad being upset if he talks to me? Son SAYS he is upset over me having the cop talk to him but son came back the next day and was fine. I think things are being said to him. My ex, after three yrs is still irrate. I wish so much he would change JUST for sons sake.
