It really is the most loving thing to respect your W's choices and not rescue her from them or enable them or excuse them, especially by trampling your own boundaries.

If she chooses that is who she wants to be and that is who she wants to be with (or without), then so she chooses. Let her be who she wants to be and with whom she wants.

Respect her by living accordingly.

You are not obligated to go along for the ride if is against who you are.

Me-53
W-49
D22,D18,D15
T-Since-12/2001
Married-9/2004
She Moved Out-5/28/2010
Piecing start-04/2011
Now-together
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