my sitch is so ugly. im seriously just done with it i really dont see this ending in any other way other than divorce. the only dicision i am having trouble with is do i sign them or do i force her to take me to court to get the divorce?
It is only ugly becuase you are letting her dictate how you see this.
She is mad at you for protecting yourself?
Or that she didn't think of it first?
While she is seeing another man you don't have a marriage so get that through your head.
And you're done?
Ok you're done.
How does it feel? Like someone kicked you in the jimmy? Like someone is dictating your life to you?
Like a victim?
Throw in the towel H2H cause you're done if you keep talking like that and letting her get to you.
Do you want to sign the papers? Is that what your vows meant to you?
"I will love and honor you all the days of my life until I am seriously done. Then I won't."
What do you want? What do you believe? What do you value? If you sign the papers will the guy in the mirror look like a better man to you?
One you admire and want to emulate?
Or the guy your W sees right now?
You are only THAT guy if you choose to be.
If you let her convince you of something you don't know yourself.
Would you respect a man that would allow that to happen?
If you don't know yourself it might be time to figure that out and stand up for that guy.
What's it gonna be?
I dont want to sign the papers because i dont believe in divorce under any cercumstance. so signing it makes me feel like i am agreeing with it. we dont have many assets to split there is no real need for a L at this time.
im saying its ugly because anyone who could really get a clear picture of my sitch would say yes its not good. i know that while shes seeing an OM that i have no marriage thats a part of why its so ugly.
all i know is that she is seeing someone i dont know who or how long. thats what i ment by i know nothing.
im trying to move on with my life. I still have feelings for her so its whats holding me back.
