Never thought I'd be here..........Part 12

[bustorama]

[quote=Crimson]She is scared that things will go back to the way that they were. I told her that I understood why she felt that way, and it was justifiable. She also said she felt we never truly had that "honeymoon" phase. She may be right - but I told her it wasn't for lack of feelings - it was more along the lines of me not being able to confidently express those feelings./quote]

Fert appointment and sharing sound nice.

You did a nice job with her first fear of listening to her and validating her.

Re: the honeymoon phase (or really for all her fears), make sure you really draw her out and help her feel safe to tell you exactly what it was that bothered her about not having a honeymoon phase or what she would like to be different or considers a honeymoon phase. (instead of trying to fix/explain why there was not a honeymoon phase).

It's really all about connecting/listening/validating. Really, the listening/connecting/validating will "fix" alot more than any explanation you can provide. If she feels understood and heard, she will feel so much safer with you.