Thanks to you both for your insight...it is so helpful to see spelled out again, and again, and again. I am going with path number 2 as I can tell you that path number 1 did me NO good at all for 5 months....too bad got the DB book after bomb number 2!!!!
So much appreciation to you both for your time and insight. Long day with H and S16 and S18. Will post in the morning on my thread the details of my loooong day.
BTW - found excerpts of that book Solo Partner. Wow, wow, wow. Incredibly on topic.
Me: 44 H: 45 Married 22 S 18, S 16 Bomb 8/11, Second Bomb 1/12