Rick

For a long time I made excuses for W's choices based on her crisis. It didn't help either of us.

Especially me.

It is not against your vows or your love for your W to let her feel the consequences of her choices.

I don't mean retribution from you but the fact the you have removed yourself from a M where your W is continually making selfish choices against it.

Would you want her back if she is still choosing that?

What is best for her to learn differently?

You coddling her behavior or enabling it?

A tough step to take for the LBS but a very necessary one for you to heal.

And for her too.


My goal is to some day be the person my dog thinks I am