OMG I cant believe she is gone

[MrBond]

"but i think thats rediculous."

Doesn't matter what you think.

"i know nothing and i might be a long while before i find anything out since she is keeping it very secret."

Then why did you say that she is seeing an OM?

"do i force her to take me to court to get the divorce?"

What do you want? Have you had a L take a look at the paperwork? If not, do that. Then tell her that you are having your legal counsel look through everything to be sure you're not being screwed. Then don't answer her.