I am no professional but your W does know you have Asp. Syndrome does she not?
From the way you discribed it, it does not seem to me to be abuse. Accidental and certainly maybe painful but would you say you intended to cause her harm?
Were you reacting to some anger or acting out some retribution type of behavior?
From what you described you became overwhelmed with what was happening and didn't know how to correct your love making technique shall we say?
I think a normal male reaction would be to do that. Try to do something different.
But only you know what you thought in that moment.
You stopped when she said stop.
Have you displayed abusive behavior toward her in the past?
I think by this time if you were an abuser you would have a history of it. Hence the question the counselor asked if you were on probation.
I am not making light of what happened or her feelings about it. I think she may have been truly scared and hurt.
I am more concerend that she may be setting you up here Psych or trying to take advantage of your obvious remorse and desire to repair your M.
Has she talked about a D or seeing a lawyer?
Are you under the care of a physician for your syndrome?
Have you talked to your dr. about this?
Be aware Psych. Protect yourself. People don't fight fair when they have made up their mind to get out.
I think but don't know for sure that if you talk to your dr. about this it would not be admissable to anything she might try to bring in to a D case. Again I am not an expert.
Be careful about what you say and who you say it to.
My goal is to some day be the person my dog thinks I am
