Good for you! Easier said than done, so don't expect to do it perfectly. The point on being willing to work on reconciliation, is that you're not willing to work on it alone. You're willing to work on it ONLY when H is willing to work on it with you, and makes that clear and believable to you.
Accuray
Married 18, Together 20, Now Divorced M: 48, W: 50, D: 18, S: 16, D: 12 Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 7/13/11 Start Reconcile: 8/15/11 Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 5/1/2014 (Divorced) In a New Relationship: 3/2015