I don't disagree at all with your suggested boundary, but it is for to CV to find those that work for her. My point was precisely that CV needs to set and enforce boundaries that work for her and it is NOT too late to do so and they need no justification other than they work for her.
But, it isn't marital rape unless it was not CV's choice to put up with it. I can easily see how it would FEEL that way though (and perhaps CV's H did not stop when asked to stop in which case I agree it would in fact amount to sexual assault.)
