Go in and tell them the truth, from your perspective. If the truth isn't that you belong there, hopefully they will suggest a place to be.

In my case, I'm seeing a therapist doing a 1-on-1 anger management program. (In fact, the book is a government publication and available free on the Internet: http://kap.samhsa.gov/products/manuals/pdfs/anger2.pdf )

When I was evaluated they did speak to my wife separately to get her side of the story.

M 42, W 40, S 11, D 9
Together 20 years, married 15
W Dropped Bomb 1/12/2012
I moved (kicked) out 1/27/2012