also at this point, if h seems deadset on wanting a d to see if he can be fulfilled/ happy on his own, it doesnt seem as though any of my GAL/Db efforts will stop the D, and i need to accept that.
so i think the answer is to just continue path #2, "let H go" via D with as little pursuit as possible in the meantime, and then continue further along on path #2/ detaching, knowing that if anything, this will be the key to either H returning in the future/ me becoming happier with my life with or without H....so i think i understand what i need to do now? just need to start aligning my actions to what i now "know"...
