Not DBing...just needed to journal my feelings

[mimivac]

I am so confused as to why I still have these feelings.

The first time all this happened, I did set the boundaries. The next time something happened I ended it. But that didn't last long. I am a sucker for her big brown eyes.

I think you should cut yourself some slack. Having feelings is not bad. You dated this woman, you liked this woman, she made you feel good about yourself. Now, you find that she has crossed some lines and boundaries that are important to you. This doesn't mean you were a sucker for having warm feelings about her, or even that you continue to have them despite her actions. What is important is what you do now. You can continue to have feelings while you assert your boundaries. You can continue to have feelings while you let her go. You know from your prior R that feelings can fade with time and that the rawness of what you are experiencing is temporary. You know how to do this! I have enjoyed learning from your posts. Now go and take your own advice.

Mimi