I am going on 10 weeks tomorrow. I feel your words in my heart and hear them in my head. My H walked out at the beginning of the year; I read “Divorce Remedy” about 7 weeks afterwards, and jumped online withing a day or after. I have been doing my 180s for three weeks now. I know there is another woman, and they may be living together at this point. I have no idea where my H lives. He comes to visit our D4 a few times a week. He has shrouded himself in mystery.
He feels I have been "mean and nasty" to him for 20 years and we have a sexless marriage. I would agree with the second point dead on. The "mean and nasty" for 20 years is ridiculous. We married after 10 years of dating so it would not make sense to marry someone if you felt mistreated by them for that long.
The folks in this online community are very nice, and feel for everyone – I would never wish this fate on my worst enemy. But, I do find myself often wondering how long this can go on. I wish there were more in-depth posts on the success stories, i.e. how did they make it through this time, and any words of wisdom from the ones who successfully used these techniques. The stories about lawyers, protecting yourself and the finances, going dark for unspecified periods of time are helpful but get me more down than up sometimes.
M: 39, H: 38 D: 4 Together: 19 Y Married: 9 Y Bomb #1: 11/04/11 (5 days b/f anniversary) Bomb #2 and H left: 01/03/12 (day b/f my bday) OW: confirmed, they live together already
