Ugh...am I really still riding this crazy train?

[leopoldstotch]

I agree with what V19 has said. I also tend to think that from reading your posts it sounds to me like your H is very afraid of losing you and that may be causing him to try to control the sitch.

Continue to remain dark/dim because it really seems to be working for you. Keep up your boundaries and above all make sure to do your GAL activities. As far as him checking your phone records it could be that H is fearful that you have someone else he could be curious or could be trying to control you. IMHO it's probably a combination of H thinking you have someone and he's very curious.
Funny how some WAS check up on us like this. I am going thru the same thing now with my WAW checking my phone records and getting mad that I talk to my sister,lol. Her anger is not my problem so I guess that means I'm really becoming detached.

Keep up the good work you sound like you are on the right path.