X's abusive father actually said to me, "If you ever have any trouble with her, blame me, not her." (It seems he's been coming to grips with what he did, gradually no longer denying and finally begging X to forgive him recently). I guess this is the trouble he was predicting.
The more abused they were in childhood the more likely they are damaged as adults prone to mlc. The term "arrested development" comes to mind. It mes sense that if their development wasn't completed, then a future trigger could cause development to resume.
"Fear is the mind-killer" Muad'Dib Me 53, XW 44, DD 14, DS 12 Bomb and OM 12/15/06 Separated 01/02/07 Divorced 05/13/08 X married OM(OMH) 08/2009 Married 06/09/13
