I read a few of the posts, and it does have some different perspectives that are good food for thought. I really like the one (I forget the member) about how she forgave him inher heart so much so that when she found new evidence (from the past) it didn't phase her.... I think this is so important if any of us decide to reconcile, that we put everything down and *really* start fresh.
**maybe we should send that link to Jenna in piecing, she's having a hard time with trusting her H now that he's back.
M-31, H-31 T-9, M-7 S-6, s-20mth sep 8/1/11 ILYNILWY 11/29/11 Creating separation papers. Discover H has feelings for BFF, she does too 1/11/12 H moves out 1.20.12
I went to NC Saturday morning for my aunt’s housewarming. It was nice to be with my family. And the weather was GORGEOUS!
Talked/texted with H a few times. He spent Saturday going to the grocery store and cleaning, and then when I got back on Sunday he had dinner ready – spaghetti.
We hung out last night, watched some TV, and I caught him up on some family stuff. He was being extra helpful - whenever I said I needed to get up and get something, he would get it. Or ask me if I needed/wanted something when he got up for a snack or whatever. The acting like Ward Cleaver is starting to annoy me. Not sure if it’s just OW or if I’m mad that he waited until now to become the model husband (outside of his A).
Had lots of time to think this weekend. I’m still getting the advice that I should confront H from some people, and from others, not to say anything just yet. I don’t know what I should be doing. I mean, I’m trying to follow my DB Coach’s advice, and I will say I’m getting what look like positive results, but not sure if that’s getting me on my way to a R with H. Granted, I know it will take time, but what is MY time limit?
For now (today anyway), I am going to follow my coach's advice. Still got lots of thinking to do.
Hang in there Ro...DBing techniques don't always seem like the logical thing to do, but obviously, they work. I will say that I know of MANY people on this board who would change sitch's with you in a heartbeat! Reading what you post, it really seems as if your H wants to be with you. He is seeing the changes you are making and is liking it. It could be that he isn't sure if this is real, therfore, keeping the OW on the side (note, SHE is the side, you are the forefront). Just keep doing what you are doing. I am proud of you!
Forgot to mention earlier that I did sent H a thank you text this morning for grocery shopping, dinner, and doing so much stuff around the house while I've been sick. Got this response: "No problem. He enjoyed shopping. :-)"
One other thing - I went to log on to my laptop this morning, and my old church's service broadcast page was up. Apparently H watched church from home yesterday. Or at least pulled it up. LOL It is the church I used to go to before we got married. We both loved it, but it was too far away to be as involved as we wanted to. Maybe he was telling the truth about going back to church. Whether we make it or not, I hope he does.
Amen to that Ro...I so desperately wished my ex would have gone to church after we split but she didn't. One of the things I can take away from our divorce is God pulled me closer to Him.
Ro, you are doing so good. you don't know how happy I am for you.
