Wendy, Your rose colored glasses are starting to turn to clear glass. We all accepted a lot of "stuff" that our spouses did or did not do because it was part of our life. Once you begin to experience the mlc monster w/a spouse, your glasses begin to clear up. You start to question your life w/them, how we interacted w/them and w/others, etc. It's very, very normal. Sad, but a part of the grieving process.
Your h had a memory lapse and forgot about the pump or he was trying to push your buttons. Either way, you set him straight. He's baiting you in a way...don't take the bait. He knows exactly what he is doing and unfortunately, he is also projecting at times. If you can maintain your cool and not show anger in his presence it would be better, but I can understand you feeling the way that you do.
Do something nice for yourself today.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
