I am so very grateful to see that a couple of our well-respected DB'ing attorneys on the boards have chimed in regarding your situation. I cannot stress enough that you need to take their advice to heart. Please turn all financial matters over to your attorney immediately and enforce LRT on your husband (STOP THE CONTACT!). For what it's worth, your MIL, nor anyone else for that matter (including your husband at this point), has any way of knowing if your husband will return to the marriage or not. But please, for now do not worry with this possibility. Instead, as mlc urged, take care of YOU and your children. Take him out of the equation for the future, and focus on meeting the needs of yourself and the children.
My husband made it crystal clear to me many times that he would NEVER return to our marriage (this while we were in the midst of divorce proceedings and fighting through our lawyers...throw him, also an attorney, into the mix, and it was a real picnic...not). And today? Our reconciliation is going extremely well, and I can honestly say we are 1000% happier than we have been in many years, if not ever. It's taken a heck of a lot of work to get here, and it is a work in progress, BUT it can happen. I'm with mlc on this one...don't give up hope if you don't want to.
But I can say this with complete confidence and certainty...even if my husband hadn't returned, guess what? I'd be okay. And you will be too.
love and hugs....hang in there and REMAIN STRONG!!! And sweet friend...I hope your dad is doing better. Never forget that you are a wonderful, smart, funny, kind, loving, beautiful mom, daughter, business woman, wife (too bad he's missing out), friend, lady in general. You can get through this one way or another. I KNOW you can.
