Bklyn,
Thanks for taking the time to let me know this... it' just what I needed to hear.

Your perspective always appeals to me and makes me feel better when I'm down.

I am starting to move on - finally have kid-free GAL activities planned for the next 2 Saturday nights and I will need to ask H to mind S13 while I'm out late.

Quite a turn-around for me, but all part of getting on with my life without him.

You are a great virtual friend, and I hope you realise what help and comfort you bring with your posts.
Best, NLW