I stand behind not messing with your scheduled time with the kids

I was a single parent for a long time too and it isn't about babysitting it is about responsibility

just as she would have to find a sitter if she couldn't watch them on her scheduled day, so would he or he would be using her as a "babysitter"

she should be able to feel the loss in other ways

don't use the kids as pawns or weapons to prove a point

and if you have to lie to create mystery then it isn't real anyway

getting a life is about just that

getting a life

she will know or she won't know but it isn't about making her wonder...it is about WHO YOU ARE

don't play games with anyone

just live the way you were meant to live all along