I have 2 family members who divorced and later on, after all parties had changed a lot
they remarried. It was about 5 years though...so it happens.
You can hope for the best but prepare for the worst,
and know you'll survive (and more) no matter what happens.
You may have to leave your h to his "mission" as he sees it.
Let him discover the grass is greenest where you water it most. YOU cannot teach him this. He has to discover it.
But you do have children and yourself to consider. THink about how the flight attendants say "Put the O2 mask on YOU first, then help others"?.
Take care of yourself, and your chlldren. GAL and please please please
DETACH!!
Below is a short post about detachment. Good luck!
DETACHMENT
"This was originally posted by Peanut. ============ II. Detachment Detachment is critical to the process of altering and repairing a relationship.
Attached, we take personally all that is said, not said, done and not done. Our ego gets wounded and we say or do things that undermine our goals.
We can NOT control the actions of another. We are, however, responsible for our own actions. We are responsible for our own happiness.
If we are detached from the actions of another, we can meet anger or indifference with love.
Met with love, we are in a position to diffuse the situation and transform it in a way that will be in alignment with our goals. On the flipside, detachment allows us to play it cool when we do get a positive reaction from our spouse. It is a way to break the distance/pursuer cycle.
Detachment is not withdrawal. It is not the mind saying, "I am not getting what I want so I must pull back." It is the natural acceptance of the reality that "I am alone responsible for how I act. I cannot control another person, but I can control how I respond to them."
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
