I'm afraid you are in for more pain. Your W gave you remarkable sex before she told you about the OM. After she said they only kissed and "fooled around" (what does that mean if not sex?), then she gives you sex two more times.

Can you see what happened? No, b/c she has seduced you and your male hormones are so happy that you can't use your common sense. She gave you the best sex ever, to soften you up before the blow she was about to give you (and I don't mean blow as in bj).

She gives you only part of the truth, and then she goes back and you have sex two more times. You have admitted that it only now has begun to sink in about what she said.

I predict that you've had the last of great sex with her, and that she will get more colder and withdrawn from you.

She hasn't given you all the truth.

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!