1. Go back dancing tomorrow myself & enjoy it & give it 100% 2. Start running again at least 3 times a week 3. Get focused & stuck into my UNI work again give it 100% 4. Remembering to show appreciation for anything nice my wife does for me & to take any compliments with a smile & say thanks. 5. start counselling tomorrow (individual - just me) 6. To stop discussing anything about my insecurities,R or future. 7. to be more confident and show an interest in W's day to day. 8. Show her how much I trust her by letting her go back to dancing this week. (too hard to make her give this up, she loves it so much & we have a big circle of friends there - got to trust her or it hasn't got a chance).
** the first 3 will give me some GAL and something to focus on & talk to W about when we are talking
we are giving it ago - we are intimate, we talk, we kiss, cuddle, but it's still hard & awkward for both of us emotionally connecting alone after such detachment. This was proved last night when we went out for a meal - when we ran out of stuff to say to each other, the past got discussed & the evening went down hill. Gonna take smaller steps, coffee & chat - yes, Romantic meal - not yet - seems forced for both of us.
Do those steps sound like a good Short Term Plan for me?
Me 34 W 32 D 9 S 6 M: 9 years T: 12 Bomb: 02/11/12 EA/PA: 12/17/11 - ongoing Moved out: Oct 2012 Joint Filed for D: 2/11/13
