Mr Bond, I have tried to maintain that viewpoint. Some days are better than others. I agree if my w is so unhappy she can leave. I don't want her to but she is free to go.
On Saturday it was my D Brithday. This whole week I have had discusions with my w with about how we would celebrate my little princess' Birthday. I asked my w if she felt all weird with me that we can have separate parties. My w thought that was a silly idea. I 'm glad she said that. We actaully planned her party together.
Saturday Morning my d had a dance recital. I was getting in to my car. My w stated that we should all go in one car, her car. I haven't been in her car in almost a year. It was wierd but familar. We share small talk. Laughed a little. My w seemed really flustered with my d. I was able to calm my d down. My w asked how do I do it so easy with my d. In my head I was thinking It is because I am always home with them. What I said was I listen to my D. Once I hear what my d has to say I can ask her do what i want. If I don't listen and force what i want My d will hold out til I listen to her. I was thinking kind of like my W. My w and I traded stories about our kids.
My d did her dance recital. My d was the sweetest little dancer. My w was observing me the whole time. I was chatting with everyone. My d was abit shy by all the other parents clapping and ran in to my arms at the end. My d was abit upset by all the attention. My d did not want my w. I just had to console my d. I saw my w and she seemed to be a bit dejected. After the rectial we went as a family to starbucks. It felt normal. I have to keep reminding my self no expectations. My w was only telling me on monday that she wants a D. My w was close to me. I think that was cause the kids were close to me.
At dinner time we had the party for my D. This was mainly my w, SIL and BIL and their kids. It felt like it always did. My w was watching me interac with her family. This is the same family that my w was trying to get me not to see at Christmas. I got the standard question from my SIL when no one was around. "Is everything ok?" I answered that is still the same. My SIL says that she could not tell that is why she asked. My little princess enjoyed her day. That is all I cared for. I hope that my w felt good about the party. I feel we both did a good job working as team.
H 37 W 38 M 11 T 18 D 4 S 10 Bomb 27/11/2010 Separated still living in the same house 1/1/2012 No D Papers No Separation Papers