Just to give you my thoughts on the the husband being amicable until finances come up. That is a touch spot for me, too - though I am on the receiving end of D and make more money than w. I make it a point to never speak to her about it even when I am handing her checks. You are dead on when you say it is a lifestyle change. I, and presumably your H, think "wow, I have worked so hard to put a nice life together, sacrificed, done without - and now it's all fading". As inherent "providers" that is a bitter pill to swallow'. Truthfully, I am not mad at my wife - more just mad at the circumstances sometimes. I was also p*ssed when my L said "it's only money! you'll make it back!". Yeah - says the guy billing me x-hundred dollars per hour.
Anyhoo.....don't take the finance stuff too personally. I am trying not too, but it is hard.
