Okay Jenna...I want you to try this. Whenever you feel anxious...accept it...recognize the feeling. Then consciously make an effort to breathe slowly and deep. Then, don't say anything...just hug J. Just keep doing that. Don't explain anything...just learn to replace the anxiety with something pleasurable and a simple act...but don't say why or you break the feeling.
The point is you shouldn't have your feelings be based on occurences...occurences should be based on feelings. What I mean is that most of live backwards. You feel a certain way because of what happens and think that's the way the world works.
In reality, which is unseen, it's truly the opposite. What you feel attracts occurences. If you learn to replace your anxiety with a good feeling...you will attract good occurences...not the bad shitt.
I have a lot of faith in you...like anyone you need to know that certain life skills tools exist...and then learn to use them.