Just found out my husband was still having his affair today. He was suppose to end it 5 months ago and he did not. Wow...OUCH!!! (SIGH)...that's a lot to take in.
HOW DO YOU KNOW it's still going on? What did HE SAY?
I ended up slapping him in the face and telling him to leave. We have been in theapy and he has been lying in our sessions about how great everything is.
Just to play devil's advocate, isn't it possible he was conflicted in the therapy sessions? He obviously feared telling you the truth...
and btw, what is HE SAYING HE wants to do now? He has also been drinking every night cause he is not happy here with me and the boys, he would rather be with her. did he SAY this^^^? Do you see him drinking?
Any support you can throw my way would be great. I am really needing to hear what I should do now and how to move on with my boys. I am so sad!!
What do you think your options are?
At one point in time, you were willing to try and move past the affair, correct?
How was the forgiveness part of that going, before you learned of the affair continuing? Did you feel YOU were making progress?
Did HE feel you were moving forward with forgiving him?
I only ask b/c sometimes the "cheater" feels stuck in a m in which the prior affair will always be held over their heads like the sword of Damacles.
And in truth, sure, sometimes the LBSers are punitive...but other times, there's not a lot the LBSer can do about THE Cheater's guilt.
except not morph it into shame I guess, b/c I have never seen shame help restore a marriage. But this is not about blaming you, I'm just looking for answers.
How do things stand between you two now?
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
