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[ClingingToHope]

Another shoe dropped today. D13 is in the second weekend of her latest round of youth theater plays. I went to opening night last Friday and bought tickets for the Saturday and Sunday afternoon plays.

I am fairly sure XW knows I was coming to those plays. I remember texting her to that fact and telling D13 as well.

XW brought the boyfriend. She did not give me the heads up that he would be there.

In the intermission, I was upstairs buying popcorn and water. D13 was selling raffle tickets. I bought one from here. She said "mom just bought 15."

I looked and there was XW talking to about four people. Usually, she's back stage so I wasn't expecting to see her.

I decided to move to the opposite side of the lobby to finish my popcorn. I looked over and there he was -- motorcycle guy -- standing next to her. I moved a bit to make sure.

She looked so happy. And I froze. I knew it was coming but I wasn't ready for it to be today. I turned and headed to my car and I've been on the phone with all the divorced friends I have since.

There were five plays this weekend. I could have gone to the other four had I known he was coming. To me, it was damn heartless not to tell me. But she's never told me the truth about this guy. She denied they were dating in summer 2009. She denied she went on the South Dakota trip with him. I only found out they were dating again because D13 told me.

I ran this past all of the divorced friends. And they encouraged me to text her instead of burying it.

So I sent her this:

"I believe I told you that I was coming to the afternoon plays Saturday and Sunday. I would have appreciated a heads up that you were bringing your boyfriend."

That may make me look week. But I want to know if this guy is going to be somewhere at the same time I am so I can be mentally ready. 20 years from now I won't care, but it's still an open wound. Not telling me when she knows I'm going to be there is pretty heartless.