Hi everyone - first of all sorry about the confusion regarding threads! I am a bit confused at how this works. I shall stick to this one.
OK - I just broke 1,2,3,4,6,7, 9 and 11. Whew!
Something in me today just shut down about all this. He keeps reconfirming that he does not want a relationship with me anymore because he needs to find himself, and he hasn't been living in his integrity, and that he can only do it alone. This is not only coming from him, but also the therapist of course. He does seem dead set in his ways and I know he can be very stubborn.
I have sent him emails just praising him though, and he responds very well to those.
I have read DR, one of the rules is lots of patience. My mother agrees. I need to have lots of patience. OK, so no more emails, no more anything from me. The only problem is that he is the main purse so every time I need extra cash, I have to call him about that. That is bothering me, but it is the only contact we have at the moment.
I don't think I'll have to act as if I am getting on with my life, I feel a desire to just get on with my life
Once I start falling out of love, then there really is no turning back for me.
Thanks so much for all your support here, and that this forum is here at all. I feel listened to. That will really help whenever I get an urge to email him - so thank you again!
I am 40, been married for 17 years. no children. Separated since 1 Jan.
