obb, What should you do? Live your life to the fullest. Your h doesn't have a clue as to what he wants, but I can almost bet he's not a very happy man and thinks that if he can get to the other side of the fence, the grass will be greener.
I would suggest that you begin to set up your own accounts and watch those joint accounts as well. Your h is in the early stages of his life's crisis and some do tend to spend quite a bit seeking that illusive happiness.
Whatever you do, do not bring up the relationship. Let the dust settle and allow him to come to you to talk. The more you push him about things, the harder he is going to pull away. This is very difficult for you, but you've got to just leave him be and focus on your life and what you need to do to survive each and every day. Make a list of projects that you have started and didn't finish or want to do. A crisis doesn't end in a day, week, month or year....it takes a very long long time. Just remember, you didn't break him, therefore, you can't fix him.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Thanks so much for the advice. I am living moment to moment and trying to figure out how to focus on myself. Everything I have done for so long has been for him and I do not even know myself anymore. Your right I did not break him and I have tried to fix him and it has not worked. There is not much other choice than to pull away.
