I realized by being so sad I am giving my H so much power over me. No one deserves to have that much power over anyone!
This is so good!
I was reading up on boundaries, I ever had boundaries so I have to read A LOT! This struck a chord with me:
Unhealthy: I can never tell where to draw the line with others. Healthy Boundary Builder: There is a line I have drawn over which I do not allow others to cross. This line ensures me my uniqueness, autonomy and privacy. I am able to be me the way I really am rather than the way people want me to be by drawing this line. By this line I let others know: this is who I am and where I begin and you end; this is who you are and where you begin and I end; we will never cross over this line so that we can maintain a healthy relationship with one another.