Hi Denver,
Thanks for looking in - very good advice and I need to follow it.

Comforting, as silly as that sounds, to hear that someone else thinks my H is out of his mind at the moment.

I'm really struggling to deal with him.

Re your question - I'm not in the US, so state-based laws don't apply to my sitch.

As far as I know, it's no-fault D after 12 months separation and asset division via agreement between parties or mediation or court order.