Feeling like I am changing

[labug]

But you are stronger now. Use the skills you have learned to focus on you and your kids. Gain strength from wherever you can.

[Grmpy_Mnky]

I don't understand how someone can lie straight to my face like that and be convincing.

I am such an idiot.

So not true! You love the guy. Based on all the information and interaction you had, you made the right choices. Now things are changing. Keep going and keep doing things for you. Its going to be alright - but you already know this..

[Cadet]

Please be gentle with the 2x4, I am really in a fragile state at the moment. I can't stop shaking and feel like I am going to be sick.

What you are feeling is perfectly normal for getting hit by a truck.

The best thing to do is to get out of the road, dragging yourself along the pavement, so no more trucks can hit you.

Sorry this is hard stuff.
I wish I had a way to make it better.
But the best I can offer is a ((((HUG)))).

Please be gentle to yourself and just work on simple things to take care of yourself.

Eat , Sleep and breathe.

The rest you can put off for another day.

OK?

[Starsky309]

Autumn,

I'm so sorry . . . I was afraid of this. Try not to make ANY decisions (and CERTAINLY no ultimatums, one way or another!) this weekend. It's going to be difficult, but do you think you can fake it until you've had a chance to do some decision-making?

Try to hang in there. It sounds stupid, but MAKE SURE YOU EAT (you won't want to). Breathe. Go out with a friend. And, if you're so inclined . . . PRAY.

It all helps.

I'm sorry.


Starsky

[gr8 day 2B alive]

AL,

If trying to save your M and build trust with your H make you an idiot, then this whole forum is full of idiots.

This will be a hard weekend for certain. Don't make any decisions based on emotion.

Get some exercise along with a healthy diet.

Eat, pray and (self) love for now.

hugs
gr8

[Fergie]

Autumn,

I really need to go back and read your situation, but I know Mindfull has been giving you some advice.

Just know many of us have been where you are now, and we survived, if not thrived once past the lowest of the low.

She has been in a very similar situation, so her advice is sound.

Just know that this isn't the end. This will pass.

Hang in there.

Fergie

[mishka422]

Peace and hugs to you. I have nothing more in the way of advice to offer than anyone just gave you. I will suggest that you do as everyone said and pull yourself through this weekend. Give yourself time to absorb the shock and think before you act.

[Dr LOve]

Autumn,

It has been a loooooooooooooooog time since I visited this board. But someone said I should come here and look ya up.

If I still have a thread here I was/ am Dr. Love...
You are NOT an Idiot. Trust is hard to come by.
I don't know your whole sitch, was there an Affair?
"I don't know if he has done anything just yet but some very ugly information was just dropped in my lap. He is trying to start something up with someone, and I saw the written proof."

Are you sure of this information?

[nhmom]

Autumn -

So sorry you're getting hit with the new information. You didn't mention where you got it.

You are NOT an idiot! The way the WAS can do things and and lie straight to our faces is amazing.

Please take good care of yourself! Sleep on it, calm down, and then you can re-group and think about the next steps you'd like to take.

(((Autumn)))

[mindfull]

Autumn.

I'm so glad you reached out today on the alt.

We'll be in touch tomorrow.

I really hope you can hold it together this weekend. You'd be wise to not let H know what you've uncovered.

You need a plan. And, not one driven by your emotions from shock/hurt. Easy for me/us to say... Huh? During a wedding? Ugh.

Thinking of you.

You have some of the best of the best here to support you and guide...

Starsky. Gr8. And.... Of course, Ferg...!