Second thing I seek special thoughts on is publicity. I have always aired my dirty laundry about porn somewhat. I wish for W sake I would have been more discreet. But I always thought I was ready to change, so being open about it and getting people involved was always intended to be part of the solution. But that's not really the publicity I worry about (though it shows that one of my 180s should be respecting boundaries). Back when W decided to stop A and try with me, she posted a very open note about it on facebook. I wish that everyone who read it would have also understood we would like to have our privacy respected, but unfortunately it just started everyone's tongue a-wagging. Maybe that was part of her changed heart/mind the following week. (added to my attitude of "great, now we can get back to happiness" which I didn't intend but tremendously regret. I was just so relieved!) Then my stupid sister sent a "prayer request" to over 100 people (most of whom we know and know us) in her bible class saying "W is leaving Daniel for her boyfriend". I haven't seen the exact email, but wow, that wasn't helpful. I've been trying to put out some of those fires and ask individuals to shut up and butt out. But the road back is not very smooth and clear. Thoughts, please?
