This is why I am struggling with this all - her sitch, my own life and taking it back, our M, my empty love tank. I don't know if I'm a DB success story in that I feel great about my own life and kids, and then totally emotionally detached from her?
I think dudes are fairly simple critters. I have my friends, my hobbies, my career, and my sister. Together these are all part of a mostly fulfilling life at the moment. There is, however, one very important thing missing. My wife right? No. Don't get me wrong, afterall my posts are riddled with my love for her. As harsh as this sounds - the only thing I am missing From my “dude’s” life is the emotional and physical connection that only a woman can provide. I really want that to be my wife, but I absolutely refuse let my life be less fulfilling because she is not here. There will come a day (soon for me), that I move on and allow somebody to get close again. Maybe self preservation, don't know. I'm being honest about this. I've been with her 25 years and never could have imagined feeling this way. And you know Ray, could I be ready to move on and love another. I have to say I yeah, I can feel the things I've learned in this and in life and am thinking how ready I am to share it all again, yet I'm open to her still. If you think I am selling her short tell me. I will tell you I loved her with all of me and held nothing back.
Rick, this is largely rhetorical. Only you know when it’s time to move on. I am such a novice at this business. Having said that, I would not blame you for moving on. Sisyphus has nothing on you… BTW - how cool would it be if she came out of it? Would you be happy?
